Learning Ideas for your Baby Bees

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Up until this point, my blog has mainly focused on Becca (my butterfly), and preschool learning activities – because that’s what I’ve been in the “thick of” around here.  But, that’s beginning to change as Grayson gets older!  I started sensory bins and learning activities with Becca at 8 months, and Grayson will be 8 months later this month.  Physically, however, he’s much more ready for some of the activities than she was.  So, we’ll be starting slow, but you can look forward to some Baby Bees posts every other Monday for the next few months.

The goal behind these posts is to give moms of babies UNDER 18 months some ideas of what you can do at home other than stare at the four walls!  We’ll also take a look at a couple various learning methods (Montessori and Reggio specifically) and how you can apply these learning methods in your home with your Baby Bee.

I’d also love to get some feedback from you – what ideas do you need?  Are there certain times of the day that are harder to fill than others?  Are you nervous about getting your baby out in nature?  When is the right time to start outdoor play, etc?  Or maybe you want ideas about getting older siblings involved in activities with your Baby Bee?  So many directions I can take this series – and I’d love for you to guide my posts!  Shoot me an email any time at butterbeesandbumbleflies@gmail.com!

The first post will go live next Monday the 19th!  Be sure to check back here then!  (If you’re not already following via email, you can set that up easily by clicking on the link to the right – and be sure to click “like” to follow my Facebook page as well!)

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Tummy Time

I recently read an article that was shared by the wonderful ladies over at The Inspired Treehouse.  I love following these Occupational and Physical Therapists because the articles they share cover a multiplicity of topics that I really know nothing about – and as a mom, I’m learning SO MUCH from them!  (So if you aren’t following their posts on their Facebook page, you totally should.  So here’s the article they shared – written by Nicole Sergent as a guest post on the Starfish Therapies blog.  It’s very interesting… and I like the realistic-ness (if that’s even a word) of the author – she knows what it’s like to be a mom, and that shows.

Babies love swings.  They love walkers.  They love the security of their cribs.  And often they are really content if we put them down in one.  Heck, they even love to be WORN!  Grayson LOVES our Lillebaby carrier, and I think he’d be content to live in it 24/7 – he’s my little snuggle bug.  But the fact remains that we as moms don’t want to grow children with physical weaknesses.  We don’t want to grow children who rely on us for their every move.  We want them to grow to be independent, physically active and fit adults.  And in order for that to happen, they need a LOT of this:

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Many babies don’t start out liking “tummy time.”  They may scream and cry as they struggle to pull up their head, and then as they learn to roll over.  But struggle is part of learning.  Remember that the butterfly doesn’t just POP out of the cocoon.  It has to struggle.  The tulip doesn’t just burst open instantly – but slowly unfolds.  And it’s hard as a mom – I’ve watched two babies pass that phase, and it’s NOT easy to sit there next to your child while he or she cries and struggles.  In that stage, I would typically sit and watch the clock, and offer lots of encouragement.  I’d only let the struggle go on for a very short time – two or three agonizingly long minutes.  But it’s paying off!!  Grayson is rolling both directions, and learning how to wiggle his way in a sort of “Army crawl” to anywhere he wants to go.

So how do you inspire your babies to WANT tummy time?  Well, that’s different for every child.  For Becca, she much preferred to sleep on her tummy, so tummy time usually turned into nap time if I’d let her.  She needed LOTS of stimulation from me while on her tummy.  I would get on my tummy too and we’d talk to each other.  She LOVED that.  For Grayson, he’s pretty content as long as he has several toys around him.  He loves that buzzy bee in the picture above – it makes fun noises and the antennae light up – encouraging him to keep his head up and watching it.  I usually place several different things on his quilt (we have hardwood floors, so I always put down a cushy quilt for him, or have him on a sheet in his carpeted room) – a variety of distances away from him.  So that he has to work to get to them.  He really enjoys being on his tummy, so he doesn’t roll over to his back too often, although he does love playing with his toes, too, so sometimes he’ll roll over for a while, and then roll back.

I wanted to create a special place for him in our family room – because we have our “adult” area with the couch and recliners, and then Becca’s playthings are everywhere, so I got a comforter out of the closet that has several really need textures on it, folded it in half, and created a little space just for him.  He has some toys, but the highlight of his play area is the little set of mirrors I attached to the wall.  He loves looking at himself in the mirror!  I got these 4″ Square Glass Mirrors (I purchased 6 – aff link) and just hot glued them on.  There are lots of options for sizes and shapes: Darice Mirror Options.

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I certainly understand that sometimes tummy time isn’t the easiest task on a Mommy’s “to do” list for the day.  And with an older child and two dogs running around, I certainly understand that leaving your baby on the floor can be a challenge.  But it’s worth putting the dogs up, vacuuming, and getting the older one an “at the table” activity if need be.  NOTHING can take the place of tummy time.  Absolutely nothing.  And nothing can make a mom feel proud like knowing that you’ve done something that has helped your child grow in a positive way.  The morning I took this picture, I was in shock that when the bee rolled away, so did he.  And so proud that my baby boy could finally roll over and over to get to the toy he wanted.  Now, just a few short weeks later, he’s everywhere!

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Being a mom is a LOT harder than rocket science.  There’s so many things that we have to do for our kids that stretch us and grow us.  And it’s not always easy.  But the rewards are so awesome.  They make all the little bumps in the road worth while.

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No Apologies Necessary

We as moms beat ourselves up.  A lot.

I recently read a really well-written blog post from someone (who will remain nameless) who was apologizing to her second child for all of what she felt were injustices being done to him because he was the second child.  We often hear the jokes about how the first child gets the expensive diapers and the second gets “Luvs,” etc.  I totally understand where this comes from.  It’s called “Mommy guilt.”  And it’s real.

However – I have decided to look at things differently.  I was an only child.  So perhaps I’m naive.  Perhaps I’m clueless.  Perhaps, I’m even stupid.  But I don’t think so.  Here’s how I see it:

Sweet Baby Grayson and Precious Big Sister Becca,
I love you both SO MUCH.  Words cannot express how very much I love both of you – uniquely and deeply.  You have both been loved since before you were conceived, and will continue to have 150% of my heart to claim as your own.  I could never more fully love EACH of you, and your Daddy.  It’s amazing how God creates room in the human heart so that more love is always abundant and free to give.

You each have your own special personalities and interests, and I love that about you.  I’m sure as you grow, more things will develop.  I love how independent each of you are becoming – one because it’s in your nature, and one because it’s part of your nuture.  You are each learning patience and discovering that I am only one person.  Sometimes you each need to take a turn waiting, and you are both learning and growing in that area.  I love how snuggly you both are – one because it’s in your nature, and one because you’re learning by observation what snuggles are all about, and you want in on the “goods.”  It’s so wonderful what you are already learning from each other.  I love how already you are beginning to play together – as big sister brings toys, and baby brother learns, observes and explores.

I will not be the perfect mother.  There will be times when you will live in filth.  There will be times when I will force you to help clean the filth you have made, and you might not like me very much.  There will be days when the food you eat will not be of the highest caliber.  There will be days when I will make food and force you to eat it.  There will be days when I am stressed to the max and I might express my frustration in ways that folks (myself included!) would say are inappropriate.  And there will be days when you are stressed to the max, and you will express frustration in ways that drive me to the edge of a cliff.  But for all of these things, I do not apologize.

WHAT?  I don’t apologize?  Oh, there will be times when I will say I’m sorry, because it will be necessary – I’m FAR from perfect.  But I DO NOT apologize for your birth order.  I DO NOT apologize that I am human.  I DO NOT apologize for how your father and I have chosen to parent you.  I DO NOT.  WHY?

Because God gave us you.  Both of you.  In HIS time.  And He is guiding and directing our footsteps, as well as yours.  He is growing and stretching each of us into the people He wants us to be.  So on the days that regret might begin to seep in because I don’t have as much time with just one of you, and on the days that I might be tempted to apologize because one of you has to (cry and) wait while the other gets served first, I will remember that.  And I will be grateful for His timing and His plan.

We tried over two years to get pregnant, and had about given up when you came along – our Princess.  And after you were born, we knew we wanted you to have a sibling to grow with and play with and fight with and love.  We lost one, then another, and we grieved.  But God had a plan.  He had for us – you – our Prince.  We are far from perfect, but we are your parents, and God has placed all of us together in this family.  So there will be no apologies for what brand of diapers you wore or didn’t wear, for what percentage of your clothes were new or hand-me-down, for what percentage of your toys had been used before, or how much one-on-one time you got or didn’t get in your first six months.

Because no matter what anyone says, you are stronger together.  You are made for each other.  You are blessed.  And you are LOVED.  This perfectly imperfect set of parents that God has given you loves BOTH of you with every fibre of our beings, and that will NEVER change, and doesn’t matter who was born first or second.  So no apologies.  None.  Just love.  And remember that when you are parents, too, ok?

We love you.  150% of our hearts.  Always.

Love,
Mommy

This letter was sent to both of their email accounts – that were created for them before they were born.  I occasionally send them little notes – some separately, some to both of them at the same time.  If you have kids, setting up an email account for them is a fabulous way to write letters to them… and then give them the address and password at whatever age you feel it’s appropriate. 🙂

 

The gift that keeps on giving!

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Back on August 4th, I told you about our Farmer’s Market sorting set (this one: Learning Resources Farmers Market Color Sorting Set– affiliate link, thank you!), and how much Becca enjoys it.  I talked about all the fabulous ways you could use the set for teaching math skills, etc.  It really is a fabulous set.

But today, I wanted to shine the spotlight on Mr. Grayson.  You see, he’s learning how to pick things up, and how to drop them, and how to put them in his mouth… and once again, I’m impressed with the versatility of this set!  Because it’s fabulous for him, at 5 1/2 months, just as much as it’s fabulous for his big sister at 2!

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I love that the fruits and veggies are bright colors and have a variety of textures, so he’s getting a great sensory experience while playing with them.  And I love that they are big enough to really work his motor skills as well as his hand-eye coordination – while being safe… he isn’t going to choke on any of these items.  Sister also loves to play WITH him – she will bring him the right color bucket and help him drop them in!  She is also great about picking up the ones he drops on the floor (because that happens a lot)!

The manufacturer recommends this product for 36 months- 6 years.  But I would definitely say that if you’re looking for a Christmas gift that’s gonna just keep on giving, this is it – for any age of baby, toddler, or preschooler.  Granted, he doesn’t have any teeth yet – and I don’t know what will happen once he does and tries to chew on these, but they feel firm enough that I doubt he’ll be able to really take a bite out of any of these items.  (We’ll watch him close, though, and I’d of course recommend you do the same if you have a little one who will be playing with them.)

So there you go – a gift perfect for the little kiddos in your life – because they will never stop learning, imagining, and loving this set!

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